I hate arguing with him. I just hate it. It's horrible. He gets so irrational over some things that seem so minor and plays dirty by calling me names and I just cry and then I go into desperation mode which consists of me apologising too soon for things I didn't even do just to stop him from being angry.
It just pisses him off more.
*sigh*
You know, neither of us are capable of staying angry for very long. I get over it quicker than him and I know that in an hour or so, he'll call me over and give me a big cuddle and say sorry. But right now it just sucks.
Edit: Okay, as always, it was over within half an hour and we were both cool again. Hmmm, but I hate arguing like that. It happens so very rarely and I wish it never happened at all because each time it happens it feels like there's a wound on my heart. Anyway, that's that.
2 comments:
One thing you guys should discuss when you are both cuddly and happy is that no matter how mad you guys get...no matter WHOSE fault the argument is...nobody should call names in the middle of a fight. The problem is, people call names in the middle of a fight because they are angry but not because they MEAN the name. However, once something is said, it can't be unsaid. And the other person who received the name is left confused and/or sad. Everybody argues...everybody disagrees. I don't care how wonderful or perfect the relationship is. But there should be ground rules like no name calling just so that when the fight is over, it won't have as much of a lasting effect.
Glad it's all better now, even if arguing sucks...
Thanks. You know, we're way better than we used to be when we first got married. Everyone says the honeymoon period is the best, but for us, both of us had been living at home and were spoilt rotten. We went through six months of having big name-calling arguments before we figured out what we were doing. It's a hell of a lot better now!
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