Jezzy's advice to Jezzy

It's okay to cry everyday if, when you factor in all the other emotions you feel throughout the day, you're fairly happy overall.

Just because you had a dream last night that it was your birthday and no one emailed, called or sent a card, doesn't mean it will really happen! Stop being so insecure. Besides, your world won't fall apart if that happened – and you're not turning 16! Anyway, at least your mum and your husband wont forget.

If someone is always "fake nice" to you, sometimes the easiest thing to do is be "fake nice" right back. Don't waste your time letting her infuriate you.

When people think they know it all, they act like they know it all. So other people think they know it all – but they don't! This is very annoying – particularly when you know a certain person doesn't know anything and everyone else seems to be smitten with her and her supposed abilities which are far inferior to your own. Again, don't waste your time letting her infuriate you.

Don't try harder than you have to. It may seem like the good thing to do, but it just runs you to the ground and no one notices anyway. You're too jaded to really care and it's easier to just give off the impression that you work hard. Therefore, walk around looking busy and complain about the amount of work you've done. Also – talk yourself up in the manner of the one who infuriates you. Maybe you'll infuriate her back.

Actually, the one who infuriates you isn't a bad person. She just need to not act so fake and not talk herself up so much and not take credit for your work! Okay, face it, you're jealous that someone who is clearly less qualified and less experienced than you has better people skills and therefore is better able to promote herself and get the attention of the powers-that-be in upper management. You can't beat her, so you probably need to join her no matter how skin-crawling that concept is.

Just because you always suppress your emotions (which have all the intensity of Catherine as a ghost, running around the moors in a dirty, wet nightie, wailing at Healthcliff to "Let me in!!! – Gaaaaah!!!!" and which therefore forms a side to you that is too embarrassing to reveal to the general public), it doesn't mean you should suppress them so much that you come across as a complete ice queen. You only hurt yourself by not saying what you really feel. You seem to do that All. The. Freakin'. Time!! It's scary to admit what you really feel – but it's not healthy to hold it in.

Just because your husband isn't interested in reading your research, or spending hours listening to your half-brained ideas and theories on life, or debating your "really deep thoughts", or acting like a passionate hero in a Mills and Boon, it doesn't mean he's not interested in you. He's just a bloke. And he's still the sweetest one you'll ever know.

It's not helpful to take it personally when people respond, or don't respond, in ways you wish they would. Sometimes it's important to keep telling yourself "Give up and move on". Even when you know you can't.