I'm one of those people who don't get turned on in the slightest by porn.
If anything, it's mildly amusing at best and rather gross at worst. I actually don't get how it can provoke horniness. Why? How?
Here's a scene. A skinny blonde girl with obviously fake boobs is bent over a car and a bloke is grabbing her hips and thrusting against her very, very vigourously. It just looks rather painful - and not in a pleasant way. The only parts of her that he touches are the parts that enable him to get a better grip while thrusting. Or he grabs at her nipples and fake boobs. She just makes noises.
It doesn't do a thing for me.
Am I the only one who needs some sort of passion and romance and connection with another person in order to be turned on? Being grabbed roughly by the boobs and hips just don't look very nice. Being touched with a gentle but firm hand all over one's body is very nice.
Being pashed with too much porn tongue is not nice - it's just ew. On the other hand, being kissed gently yet passionately on the mouth, neck and back is very nice.
Having someone thrust vigourously into you in a complete random fashion is not nice. Having someone look deep into your eyes while making sweet, sweet love - very nice.
Having someone say "yeah, bitch, yeah, ooh, that's good" is just boring. Hearing sweet nothings which imply that you're the most gorgeous, loved, amazing woman in the world - that's lovely. Words, words, lovely words.
You get my drift.
I hear all the time of women who say that they actually like porn. I just don't get it. Why would you want some guy with all the sexual prowress and sensitivity of a 14 year old adolescent touching your body?
A woman needs to feel like she's the centre of a man's world. She needs to feel safe, loved, worshipped, cared for. She needs passion, commitment, truth and a love that she can rely on to always be there for her - no matter what. That's the only way she's really going to be able to open up and give of herself and that's the only way she's really and truly going to enjoy sex.
I might seem very, I don't know, prudish or something. I'm not meaning to be. But tell me what you really think...
Porn - turn on or turn off?
8 comments:
....well, I'm all for DUCK PORN, Jezzy :)
Nah, hard core porn has never done it for me at all. I have seen maybe two soft core porn movies in my life that had substantial plot (GASP!), and that made the sex more interesting. I think that's just a female thing: to be turned on we don't need "just" sex. We need the relationship and the binding that MAKES the sex. I guess that's why romance novels are such a big seller with women. Well, that and women respond very well to words and men are very visual.
Kira - I will shoot you if I hear that "Men are very visual" stereotypical assumption from you again.
I think Woody Allen said "For the first five minutes, watching porn makes you want to have sex. After that, watching it makes you never want to have sex again." I'm with him on the second bit. I saw a fair amount while in the Army - it's unavoidable if you're unmarried and live in the barracks - and many of us viewed it the same way. After it was over, if somebody said something about the guy in the scene, we would think "There was a guy involved?" Usually we just looked at the woman, thought "Look - naked skanky woman with bleached hair and fake boobs" and tuned everything else out, unless the guy was so hairy and disgusting that we couldn't help but notice him.
A skinny blonde girl with obviously fake boobs is bent over a car and a bloke is grabbing her hips and thrusting against her very, very vigourously.
Wasn't that Jessica Simpson's last video clip?
But generally, yes, I agree with what you've said.
Straight guys can find nearly anything a turn-on... pornography seems a bit gratuitous and less-than-subtle. Some gay guys need only don a tight pair of jeans and they're basking in the warm glow.
The rest of us have a litle more... errr... depth.
Emotional depth, that is.
Ok, here is the question.
Why are you watching this instead of doing it or something like it?
I don't get much of a rush from porn on the tube, I want it in my bed! LOL!
I don't know...but this post has me all hot and bothered.
Something like the Playboy channel is really devoid of anything appealing to me. I've seen a few movies here and there, but I think they were obviously marketing women because they had the romance in them too. I like reading erotic literature, but clearly, that's a whole different kind of thing. It's tough to say I'm totally against it b/c I've gotten a few interesting ideas from time to time. But overall, I have to agree, it's pretty much all the same and not even remotely like reality. Actually, if I'm honest, I'll just admit it... When I watched, it was really for the music.
You're not watching the right porn.
Hmmmm...do I admit it? Sometimes porn is fun when used in a couple (which means that I agree with the whole "women need the relationship aspect of sex"). But yeah, most of the time, it's just silly. And then you have the whole problem of people who get addicted to it...who use it too much, who use it and compare real life to porn...that opens a whole ugly can of worms.
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