We arrived back from England this morning.
This is just a quick post to let you know we're safe and sound.
It's been a busy and emotional last few weeks - I think it'll take a while to get used to it - it was all just such a shock.
I've never thought before how much work it is to organise a funeral and to deal with the amount of paperwork required when someone dies - particularly if they owned a business. But those things keep you going too - we were so busy with it in the first week that it provided a numbing momentum to move on and not get too caught up with the reality of it.
It's really devastating and I get upset whenever I think about it and whenever I remember the tone Hubby's words when he found out over the phone - "My Dad died" - we just both collapsed.
Gav's father was larger-than-life and a rather notorious character. He was a permanent bachelor and regarded himself as a bit of a James Bond.
He left behind four children, three grandchildren and a very special dog. He was an active, adventurous 61 year old who could drive people around the bend with his neverending energy but a lot of people had a lot of affection for him.
I'm so sad for my husband - it's been really upsetting and strange. There were also some really nice moments though - like getting to know his 40-year-old older brother who he'd never met. I think we'll stay in close contact with him and his family - Hubby really hit it off with them all.
I'm back at work tommorow and will write more then. Thanks for all your comments.
5 comments:
welcome back, jez, glad to know you're safe and sound. every situation is different, of course, but i well understand the complexity and emotion of such things, having lost both my dad at age 51 of a heart attack when i was 29, and my mum, 15 years later, at 69, following a massive stroke. my dad died overseas, and i only had to handle the paperwork for his estate, most of which went to mother, but when mum was in the nursing home for two years and after, i was the son charged with handling the paperwork, and i well remember the nightmare of dealing with it all. my mother died ten days before first first child was born, i was working fulltime and was going to university for a second degree. the stress of dealing with paperwork - as well as the siblings, as i settled up mother's affairs - felt overwhelming sometimes. anyways, didn't mean to go on. welcome back. glad to know you guys are safe and sound.
I recently watched my mom and my aunt go through all the funeral preparations and other things when my uncle died suddenly at 55. I know it's tough; but it really sounds like you and hubby are supporting one another through it all, and I think that's what it takes to get through it. I'm glad he got to meet his brother too.
Hope life settles back down to normal now. Hugs!
I am glad to know you are back safe and sound - let me know if there is anything at all I can do...thinking of you both.
oh lord, I'm so sorry. This sounds devastating. It's good that he has you (and you him) to lean on.
jezzy: My sincere condolences to both of you. I know firsthand what a difficult time this can be.
Be well.
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